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Taming Your Vicious Inner Critic (part 2): B98.7

Does that little voice in your head say mean things to you, call you names, point out all of your weakness? What’s behind our tendency to to belittle ourselves? Here are 3  specific tips to tame your inner critic, and a warning about how self-criticism can negatively impact your children (even if you are telling them how wonderful THEY are)

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Ok. Now it’s YOUR turn to take my challenge. Post 10 things you like about yourself below! (Your email will be kept private. I promise!)

Taming Your Vicious Inner Critic (part 1): B98.7

You know that little voice in your head that narrates your life? Well, it can be vicious sometimes. In fact, most of us wouldn’t dare say to others the negative statements and criticisms we tell ourselves. I chatted with B98.7′s Todd and Erin about how to tame this inner critic and be kinder to ourselves!

Erin says that her inner critic looks a lot like this mean lady ————>

Listen to tips on how to tame your inner critic and feel better about yourself!

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Tuesday Tunes: What If by Julie de Azevedo

STORY Behind the song “What If”

A recurring struggle in my life is that I am rarely satisfied…with anything or anyone, including myself. I find it extremely rare that I am satisfied with the way things are and that I’m constantly looking ahead. Maybe the lack accepting the moment is just part of having a “creative personality”. Maybe it’s part of being a therapist and being trained to look for problems to be solved or fixed.  Maybe it’s just part of a spiritual knowledge that there is always more to experience. Whatever the source, it has brought unhappiness and restlessness. I’ve often wondered what life would be like WITHOUT  wanting more, or different, or new, or…

What if…?

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LYRICS

What If

Originally From the album Home
Words: Julie de Azevedo
Music: Julie de Azevedo & John Hancock
©2005 Julie de Azevedo (BMI) / Spooky Cowboy Music (ASCAP)

What if I loved the skin I’m in
Focused on beauty from within
What if my spirit and my body lived in harmony
What if my grass was always green
Greener than any field I’ve seen
What if I celebrate the garden right in front of me

CHORUS
What if I loved the life I’m living
What if I only wanted what I’ve been given

What if I loved the man I’m with
Not who he’ll be but who he is
What if it loosened up the soil for more love to grow
What if I let my children be
Just who they are not what I need
What if I watched in wonder as their tender wings unfold

CHORUS

BRIDGE
What if I laid the past to rest
Looking ahead not looking back
What if I savored every moment like it was my last

What if I wanted what You bring
Didn’t long for the next big thing
What if I only lived for the peace and not for the thrill
What if I gave You all my heart
Didn’t hold back the slightest part
What if I lay it on the altar of Your will

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (part 2): B98.7

Do you struggle with guilt about all of the things you didn’t accomplish.  Where does your sense of worth come from? Why does Utah have such a high depression rate?

Listen to tips to help you acknowledge your own unique strengths and accomplishments, let do of guilt, and stop comparing our weaknesses to others’ strengths. on B98.7 Todd & Erin morning show.

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Self & relationship expert Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW is wife of 22 years and mother of 4, a performing songwriter, a licensed psychotherapist, a popular media contributor, and director of Wasatch Family Therapy. Watch Julie on KSL TV’s Studio 5, listen on B98.7 radio, and read her national advice columns on Psych Central, and Latter-day Woman Magazine. Follow Julie on Facebook & Twitter.

Preventing Emotional Burnout Handouts – Valley View Stake

What a dynamic group of women you are! Thanks for an enlightening dialogue, insightful comments, and for opening up your hearts to me this evening. I appreciate the invitation and hope that you’ll remember the part about this workshop is a “guilt-free” zone. Flowers you gave me are beautiful. There’s nothing like fresh flowers during winter to lift my spirit. Below is the handout link as well as some other links that you may find helpful. Also, at the bottom of the page is a music video for “Make Enough of Me” – the last song I sang. Thanks again for letting me be with you tonight!

Remember to do one “get to” every day!

XO, Julie

Handouts

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Music

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Counseling

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How’s your relationship with you?

The Power of You

The only relationship that is consistent throughout your life is the one you have with yourself. Read my thoughts on strengthening your relationships with yourself in the article “The Power of You”.

Healthy Utah Magazine

Click the cover below to access the online magazine & flip to page 28-29.

That’s what I like about me!

Wasatch Woman Magazine July 2010

Here’s today’s relationship column in the July 2010 issue of Wasatch Woman Magazine, now available as an insert in the Deseret News & Salt Lake Tribune! I’m thrilled about the opportunity to inspire even more women with my column. Here’s today’s article. Enjoy.

Watch my TV segment on this topic HERE

Read “Favorite Phrases For Relationship Confrontations” WW article  HERE.

Learn more about my therapy clinic HERE