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Ask Julie: I Feel Like An Imposter!

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie on October 20, 2011

Q: No matter what I’m doing, or which role I’m fulfilling, I feel like a fake. This includes my low-stress job, friendships, even parenting.  I feel that I don’t belong and it’s only a matter of time before others find out, which scares me. I believe that this has been going on for several years, more »

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Ask Julie: I’m Paralyzed By Academic Decisions

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Relationships, Self-care on September 30, 2011

Q: I’m in the first year in university, my story started when I finished high school with high grades but due to money problems I couldn’t attend medicine faculty and now I’m studying pharm.d. But since I started to study this all people keep asking me why I’m not studying medicine and they feel sorry more »

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Ask Julie: Can Adults Have Separation Anxiety?

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Anxiety, Ask Julie, Emotional Health, Mental Health on September 2, 2011

Q: I’m 18, and I’ve been slightly dealing with Separation Anxiety throughout my childhood, I’ve never been to a psychologist or therapist for it to know that it officially is the disorder, but whomever I get close to, I get upset and have a fear of being alone, if they die or if I die, more »

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Ask Julie: Why Does Dad Favor My Brother?

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Family, Parenting on August 28, 2011

Well, I’m 15 and I’m really sad because my brother always gets everything he goes and sees my dad and gets £30 or more of him every time he gets money for stuff as well everyday and when I go and see my dad all i get is a £5.  My brother also got a more »

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Ask Julie: I Don’t Feel Anything

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Depression, Mental Health on August 26, 2011

The problem that I have is that I’m not sure what’s wrong with me. Last summer, I tended to wake up without any emotion at all, then I would be all depressed and thinking I’m fat. Around 1-4 in the evening, I would become apathetic and it would feel like I didn’t have any more more »

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Ask Julie: Is This Obessession Really About Food?

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Body Image, Emotional Health, Mental Health on August 24, 2011

Q: I had naturally been apprehensive to meat when I was younger. I liked to eat, but I didn’t really like meat (aside from the taste). Then, 6th grade came along, and I started having problems: depression, (the past, not now) suicidal and many other things. Along with that, a lot of changes were entering more »

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Ask Julie: Lacking Emotions in Social Situations

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Advice, Ask Julie, Emotional Health on July 30, 2011

Q: I am a 17 year old High School student and I have felt this conflict my entire life, but only now can I ignore it no longer. Amidst all of the discussion about college and ‘finding the right fit,’ I have realized that the major internal problem I have is that I lack an more »

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Ask Julie: My Son’s Illness Is Ruining My Life

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Emotional Health, Family, Mental Health, Parenting on July 1, 2011

Q: My son is now 13 and had been diagnosed ED / ADHD since he was 3. I was a single mom the first 4 years of his life, and married when he was four. I now have two other boys, 2 and 4, and my husband and I are struggling to deal with the more »

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Ask Julie: I’m Depressed & No One Knows

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Depression, Emotional Health, Family, Mental Health on June 29, 2011

Q: First off I would like to thank you for taking the time out to help me. But the problem is I’m depressed but nobody knows it. Half the reason I am is because I have no really close friends to hang out with or etc. While everybody is usually going to the movies, the more »

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Ask Julie: Arranged Marriage Or Wait For Love

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Dating, Marriage, Relationships on June 27, 2011

Hi. At last I have found one good place to open up myself. I’m going through the very common quarter life crisis… And I’m really confused. A little of background about me. I’m from India and 26 old. As typical orthodox family in India my parents started seeing for marriage proposals. During the same time more »

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Ask Julie: I’m Scared To See A Therapist For My Eating Disorder

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Body Image, Emotional Health, Therapy on June 2, 2011

Q: I started out with anorexia but now am bulimic/anorexic and have been this way for about 3 yrs now. I am on a binge/purge cycle and have purged everyday at least since November. One person knows about my ED and I am so scared to get help even though I know that I need more »

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Ask Julie: I Want Out Of My Marriage

posted by Julie Hanks LCSW in Ask Julie, Marriage on May 25, 2011

I have been married for 15 years. I have grown very much but he has not. He will not deal with any issues between us. He is really immature. He never accepts responsibility for his part in any problem. (Everything is always my fault according to him.) We went to counseling two times but the more »

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Ask Julie: How Do I Overcome Bad Habits Learned From My Unstable Childhood?

posted by admin in Advice, Ask Julie, Communication, Family, Relationships on April 28, 2011

Q: Hi! I had a pretty unstable childhood growing up and worked really hard to accept the life I had and move on as well as love the life I have now. The problem I struggle with is habits from my parents that I have adopted myself. I struggle with a temper problem when I more »

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Ask Julie: How Do I Get Over Jealousy Issues With My Sister?

posted by admin in Ask Julie, Family, Relationships on April 25, 2011

My boyfriend and I dated for four months. After we first broke up, we started talking again. We talked for three months. Then I found out that the reason why he broke up with me was because he liked my sister. I was really hurt, but I still talked to him because I really, really more »

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Ask Julie: Help! I Can’t Get Over My Celebrity Obsession

posted by admin in Advice, Ask Julie, Intimacy, Media on April 13, 2011

Q: I am “in love” with a celebrity male, 29 years older than me. Since I was ten, before I knew his name, I was sexually obsessed with him. That obsession later turned into this “relationship” I made up. I have lost myself, believing that we have many things in common, and that he really more »

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Ask Julie: Do I Have Adult ADD?

posted by admin in Anxiety, Ask Julie, Depression, Emotional Health on March 21, 2011

Q: I’m a student receiving my Master’s degree. Within the past two years I’ve felt my body and mind change significantly in many ways. I feel extremely anxious when doing tasks (even small ones like packing/unpacking a suitcase). This is the same with grocery shopping or attempting my homework. I then push everything aside and more »

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Ask Julie: Why Am I Addicted To Toxic Relationships?

posted by admin in Ask Julie, Family, Relationships on March 16, 2011

Q: Why am i so addicted to toxic relationships? I always push away good women and have trouble letting go of the women who hurt me. I feel the need to seek approval and love from women who don’t return the love. A: What a painful dynamic to be dealing with. I’m guessing that you more »

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Ask Julie: Do I Have Borderline Personality Disorder?

posted by admin in Advice, Ask Julie, Mental Health, Relationships on March 12, 2011

Q: About a year ago I went to my doctor and told her how I was feeling, she told me I had symptoms of BPD and to maybe see a therapist. I never ended up going but I did look it up and a lot/almost all of it related to me. I never thought much more »

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Ask Julie: How Do I Tell My Daughter About Her Dad’s Past?

posted by admin in Ask Julie, Family, Marriage, Parenting on February 28, 2011

Q: I have a 6 1/2 year old daughter. My husband was married and divorced before and has 2 children. We haven’t told her any lies about anything but we haven’t told her the “whole” story about everything. I didn’t really think she was old enough to need to know or understand. I also want more »

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Ask Julie: How do I get hubby to turn off his cell phone?

posted by admin in Advice, Ask Julie, Communication, Marriage on February 4, 2011

Ask Julie: How do I get hubby to turn off his cell phone? Q: “My big question is how do you tell your spouse to turn off his cell phone? I am a stay-at-home mom so as soon as hubby gets home from work, my mouth keeps going about my day, then the cell phone more »

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