Ask Julie: I’m Caring for Mentally Ill Adult Brother
Q: If something was to happen to me my brother would not be able to survive. I need help. My mother adopted my brother at 13 whom is 21 now. He had been foster care since he was 2 years old. They labeled him as mentally ill. We would hit is head on the wall, more »
Read more“It’s Not Your Job To Make Everybody Happy”
Happy Monday. Do you find yourself feeling responsible for the emotions of your loved ones? When your child or spouse is sad or disappointed, do you feel like you’re somehow responsible to make them feel better? This quote is for you! Remember that it’s not your job to make anyone happy. You can’t make anyone more »
Read moreAsk Julie: I Have No Sex Drive & Can’t Keep a Relationship
I was abused as a child, have no sex drive and the one true love has left me (he doesn’t know about my childhood) I want to know if there is any hope for us at all-we never had sex often (twice in a year) he won’t discuss sex as he gets embarrassed and never more »
Read moreAsk Julie: How Do I Get Over My Ex-Boyfriend?
Q: Hi…My problem is that my boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. we already planned to go to Hawaii and I have to go because I can’t pay him back since it’s really expensive. We decided to be friends, when I’m around him I want to be his friend and that’s the only more »
Read moreAsk Julie: How Do I Disengage From My Ex?
Q: I was with my ex girlfriend for a year and half. A few months before our breakup she moved a few states away and we tried to maintain a long distance relationship. I did not go with her, because I was nearly finished with college. At the time it seemed like a spur of more »
Read moreAsk Julie: How Bad Is It For A Grown Woman To Move Home?
Q: I recently got laid off, and right now my rent is almost due. My brother thinks that if I can’t find a job I should move home, actually scratch that, he thinks I should be home even if I have a job. My mom passed away a month ago, and he’s afraid that my more »
Read moreAsk Julie: Will My Therapist Have To Tell My Parents When I Cut Myself?
I am 14 and recently my parents have discovered I struggle with self-injury. After discovering this, they are going to send me to see a therapist to help with the issue. They, of course, know I struggle with self-injury, but I would prefer if they did not hear about it if I tell the therapist more »
Read moreDon’t Be Afraid To Set Boundaries: Studio 5
Does the fear of offending friends or family members keep you from setting boundaries? It’s a timely topic with the holidays fast approaching. Therapist, Julie Hanks, says it’s ok to set boundaries, even if you offend someone. Q: Why are we afraid to set boundaries that might offend someone? You might mistakenly confuse boundaries more »
Read moreHow To Ward Off Emotional Vampires: Studio 5
Spot an emotional vampire before it bites! Therapist, Julie Hanks, has tips to protect yourself from people who want to bring you down. I became aware of the term “emotional vampires” after reading a book review of Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life by Judith Orloff, MD. She has excellent more »
Read moreHow To Overcome Fears & Risk Emotional Vulnerability In Relationships: Studio 5
Allowing another person to “step in your shoes” means letting them know what is really going on in your life. Studio 5 Contributor and Therapist, Julie Hanks, says that’s a risk many of us are simply not willing to take. Find out how to break through false fronts and let people in. Level 1 – more »
Read more7 Mistakes Smart Parents Make: I’m Quoted in Parenting Magazine!
Sweet! My therapy clinic Wasatch Family Therapy and I got a shout out in the November issue of Parenting Magazine! Read my advice on common parenting mistakes (and my own personal confessions) on newsstands this week. Download the pdf below 7 Mistakes Even Smart Parents Make–Fixed! (pdf)
Read moreWorld Mental Health Day – Do Your Emotional Family History: Studio 5
WHAT is emotional family history? Emotional family history is the emotional and relational patterns inherited and/or learned from your parents and grandparents, which may have been passed down to you. It includes: 1. nature: predisposition to certain emotional & mental health problems or traits (i.e. depression, anxiety, addictions) 2. nurture: learned patterns of how to more »
Read moreHaving A “Favorite” Child Isn’t Such A Bad Thing: KSL News
In his new book “The Sibling Effect”, Jeffrey Kluger says that whether they want to admit it or not, every parent has a favorite child. I think he’s right. A parent may naturally “click” with one child over another or may find one child easier to understand. What’s important is that parents to do what more »
Read moreAsk Julie: I’m Paralyzed By Academic Decisions
Q: I’m in the first year in university, my story started when I finished high school with high grades but due to money problems I couldn’t attend medicine faculty and now I’m studying pharm.d. But since I started to study this all people keep asking me why I’m not studying medicine and they feel sorry more »
Read moreI’m Giving Away Therapy Oct. 3-7: Free Therapy Week In Utah County
Get free therapy & help your community My therapy clinic is opening a Provo office! To celebrate our grand opening of Wasatch Family Therapy Provo location we are offering free 45 minute therapy for new clients who bring a non-perishable food item to donate to the Provo Community Action Food Bank. When: October 3rd – more »
Read moreAsk Julie: Why Am I Afraid To Grow Up?
Q: I’m a 25 year old male. I’ll just start off by saying that opening sentences take me sometimes hours to write (this one took ten minutes). The same goes for my life – I just can’t seem to get anything started: Job applications, writing routines, relationships with the opposite sex, you name it. The more »
Read more6 Tips for Marital Bliss After ‘I Do’: Daily Herald
“I do” is just the beginning of the adventure of marriage. Here’s a quote from a recent Daily Herald article called “After ‘I do”: 6 Tips for Marital Bliss”. A common misconception about romance is that it’s all about money, about buying gifts, or planning trips for your lover,” said Hanks. “Romance can be simple, more »
Read moreAsk Julie: I Feel Stuck In My Own Mind
Q: I’ve been sitting here for 30 minutes trying to formulate my thoughts into a paragraph but I can’t do it so I’m just going to list feeling as they come to mind. 1. I feel nothing on a regular basis. For example if I got a call saying that my mother died, I don’t more »
Read moreWhat Your Best Friend Isn’t Telling You: Studio 5
There are topics even best friends have a hard time talking about. We explore real life scenarios and offer real life solutions to help you tackle touchy subjects with your best friend. Why are some topics difficult to talk about, even among our closest friends? Women tend to feel responsible for their friends’ feelings & more »
Read moreSingle? How To Have A Great First Date (part 2)
Here’s part 2… Redefining a Successful Date A successful first date is one where you simply enjoy the other person’s company. It does not require that you come to a conclusion about whether he or she is “the one.” You may or may not get a second date. If you don’t, that doesn’t mean it more »
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