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Understanding Mormon Guilt and Shame: Feminist Mormon Housewives Podcast

Understanding Mormon Guilt and Shame

Last summer I attended a week-long training based on the shame and vulnerability research or Brene’ Brown’s. When Lindsay asked me to record another fMh Podcast on shame and guilt in the Mormon I was elated. From my 20 years of clinical work with members of the LDS community, I’ve noticed that shame and guilt are often collapsed into the same experience. It’s helpful to understand the difference. Shame is I AM BAD, while guilt is MY BEHAVIOR WAS BAD. Guilt is toxic and never inspires people to change while guilt can prompt us to make changes. I hope you enjoy the podcast!

To my listen to my earlier FMH podcast about the importance of self-care during, click here.

Also, my book “The Burnout Cure; An Emotional Guide for Overwhelmed Women” expounds on these ideas.

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Brene’ Brown’s shame research
Relational-Cultural Theory
Cultural Transformation Theory
Wasatch Family Therapy

 

How To Be More Assertive: Studio 5

How to be assertive

“Assertiveness” is a word that can have some negative connotations. Some might equate being assertive with being pushy, bossy, or controlling. But in reality, assertiveness is a communication skill that can help us express our feelings and needs and ultimately grow closer in our relationships. The truth is that assertiveness is extremely important in having the life we want. Here are some strategies to help you be more assertive:

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How to Harness the Power of Procrastination: Studio 5

Most all of us have procrastinated at one point or another. We delay doing things like taxes, cleaning, work projects, etc. While we tend to think of this as a bad habit, it’s possible to manage the tendency to put things off to actually benefit you. Here are 4 ways to harness the power of procrastination:

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What To Do When You Don’t Like Your Child’s Friends: LDS Living Magazine Interview

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Have you ever gotten bad vibes from one of your children’s friends? Maybe you felt like he/she was a negative influence or was causing your son or daughter to be unhappy.  It can be hard to know when you as a parent should get involved and when it’s better to just let things be.

As a licensed therapist and a mother of four children, I am certainly familiar with this scenario, and I recently sat down with LDS Living Magazine to offer my views on it. Here are a few strategies for what to do when you don’t like your kids’ friends:

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Stop Overreacting article Community Orange Magazine

Do you get very upset or angry easily?  Have you ever been accused of being hot-headed?  If you respond with intensity and emotion that is disproportionate to the situation at hand, you are overreacting.

I recently had an article published in the August edition of Community Orange Magazine where I discussed strategies to keep calm and appropriately respond to stressful situations.  Here are a few basic ways to keep from overreacting.

Click here to read the full article about ways to keep your cool.

Self-care During Painful Times: Feminist Mormon Housewives Podcast

Radical Compassion

I was invited by Tresa Edmunds, blogger at Feminist Mormon Housewives, to share thoughts about the importance of self-care during times of grief and loss. In this fMh podcast Tresa and I talked about how to process emotions, deepen spirituality, embrace complexity, and practice radical compassion, and prioritize self-care as tools to process difficult emotions surrounding the excommunication of Ordain Women’s Kate Kelly.

In this podcast I mention Riane Eisler’s Cultural Transformation Theory and the continuum of dominator and partnership models of social organizations. For more information on cultural transformation theory visit RianeEisler.com
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Supporting A Loved One With Mental Illness: Studio 5

On Studio 5 a brave Utah woman shares her story of her husband’s struggle with mental illness. Because those who suffer don’t “look” ill, they are often misunderstood and don’t get the support offered to those with a visible illness. Here are 5 ways we can better support friends and family members struggling with mental illness.

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