Texting Doesn’t Replace Comfort Of Mother’s Voice: KSL TV News
A new study published in Evolution of Human Behavior shows their no substitute for hearing your mother’s voice to calm daughters who are stressed. I sat down earlier today with Brooke Walker at KSL TV News to share my thoughts on this news study. Give what I’ve learned about attachment theory, the results of this study more »
Read moreTop 10 Posts of 2011 on JulieHanks.com
It’s always fun to see which posts catch your interest over 12 months. Looking back over 2012 the top posts are a mix of music, personal posts, parenting tips, marriage topics, and mental and emotional health advice…and that list just about sums up my life! A big surprise is #1 — guess you haven’t forgotten more »
Read moreMy 5 Year Old Cut Her Own Hair!: Studio 5
Call it every mom’s nightmare – when their little girl gets a hold of the scissors and chops off their long locks. So how do you deal with that dramatic parenting situation? We asked Studio 5 Contributor Julie Hanks LCSW her reaction when her 5-year-old daughter did this a few days ago, and what tips more »
Read moreAsk Julie: Will My Therapist Have To Tell My Parents When I Cut Myself?
I am 14 and recently my parents have discovered I struggle with self-injury. After discovering this, they are going to send me to see a therapist to help with the issue. They, of course, know I struggle with self-injury, but I would prefer if they did not hear about it if I tell the therapist more »
Read moreDon’t Be Afraid To Set Boundaries: Studio 5
Does the fear of offending friends or family members keep you from setting boundaries? It’s a timely topic with the holidays fast approaching. Therapist, Julie Hanks, says it’s ok to set boundaries, even if you offend someone. Q: Why are we afraid to set boundaries that might offend someone? You might mistakenly confuse boundaries more »
Read moreShould You Keep Your Kids Believing in Santa?: Studio 5
No parent wants to be “Scrooge” about Santa, so why not just keep believing forever? Therapist, Julie Hanks, has advice on how to handle “Santa doubt” and how to keep Santa’s example of love and generosity, alive. Should you keep your kids believing in Santa? 1) Let your child take the lead · Watch more »
Read moreTechnology Milestones For Kids | When Should Kids Have Cell Phones, Facebook, Game Consoles?: Studio 5
Hi-Tech Parenting: When Should Kids Have Cell Phones, Facebook, Game Consoles? Under pressure to let your kids go hi-tech? Get expert advice on when to let children have a cell phone, open a Facebook account and more. Studio 5 Contributor and therapist, Julie Hanks, has tips to help you manage kids and technology. 1) At more »
Read moreEncouraging Creativity in Your Kids
1) Model a creative life Let your kids in on your own creative outlets. Whether it’s creating an online scrapbook, journal writing, floral arrangements, card making, playing flute, etc. My kids have grown up seeing me write songs and perform in concerts. Because I’ve continued to develop my creative side, from as young as 18 more »
Read more8 Surefire Ways To Emotionally Mess Up Your Kid
8 Surefire Ways To Emotionally Mess Up Your Kid 1) Shut down all emotional expression If your child expresses anger, sadness, fear be sure to make fun of them, tell them not to feel, and dismiss their emotions. Withhold love whenever they express emotion, especially vulnerable feelings. Another tactic is to express more intense emotions more »
Read moreNational TV Appearance on Secretly Pregnant on Nov. 3 on Discovery Health
Tune in Nov. 3rd 8PM MT to Discovery Fit & Health No. I’m not secretly pregnant. Several months ago I got a call from a casting company asking if I’d be willing to do some pro bono therapy with a woman in Salt Lake for a women’s health documentary show about women who are hiding more »
Read moreWill 1 Year Wait Period Before Divorce Save Marriages: KSL TV News
KSL’s Brooke Walker asked me to weigh in on the recent proposal from the Institute for American Values suggesting to lawmakers a mandatory divorce waiting period. In my clinical work with couples I’ve found that couples often seriously consider or file for divorce because they have lost hope of reconnecting with their spouse and think more »
Read moreOvercoming Pregnancy Body Image Fears: Quoted on Parents.com
Pregnancy is a time of change, and living in a culture obsessed with appearance and thinness, many women struggle with fears surrounding body changes that accompany pregnancy. I recently interviewed with Parents.com to share my thoughts on this topic… “Women need to develop a willingness to view bodily changes as part of the journey of more »
Read more7 Mistakes Smart Parents Make: I’m Quoted in Parenting Magazine!
Sweet! My therapy clinic Wasatch Family Therapy and I got a shout out in the November issue of Parenting Magazine! Read my advice on common parenting mistakes (and my own personal confessions) on newsstands this week. Download the pdf below 7 Mistakes Even Smart Parents Make–Fixed! (pdf)
Read moreWorld Mental Health Day – Do Your Emotional Family History: Studio 5
WHAT is emotional family history? Emotional family history is the emotional and relational patterns inherited and/or learned from your parents and grandparents, which may have been passed down to you. It includes: 1. nature: predisposition to certain emotional & mental health problems or traits (i.e. depression, anxiety, addictions) 2. nurture: learned patterns of how to more »
Read moreHaving A “Favorite” Child Isn’t Such A Bad Thing: KSL News
In his new book “The Sibling Effect”, Jeffrey Kluger says that whether they want to admit it or not, every parent has a favorite child. I think he’s right. A parent may naturally “click” with one child over another or may find one child easier to understand. What’s important is that parents to do what more »
Read moreKids & Consequences-5 Questions To Ask Before Rescuing: Studio 5
5 Questions To Ask Before Rescuing Your Child From Natural Consequences The only source of knowledge is experience. – Einstein Being a “good parent” usually means being involved in your child’s life and “doing” things for your child, like volunteering in school, attending their sporting events, and teaching them values and skills. Allowing your child more »
Read moreHave Playgrounds Become Too Safe?: KSL TV News
Can a playground be TOO safe and stifle kids imagination, or stunt development? Remember the tricky bars, carousel, really high slides, and gigantic monkey bars? A recent NY Times article on this topic suggests that eliminating all risk may not be in your child’s best interest. Watch what I have to say about it here…
Read moreAsk Julie: Why Does Dad Favor My Brother?
Well, I’m 15 and I’m really sad because my brother always gets everything he goes and sees my dad and gets £30 or more of him every time he gets money for stuff as well everyday and when I go and see my dad all i get is a £5. My brother also got a more »
Read moreIs Your Child “Overbooked”?: KSL 5 News
The Overbooked Child Good parents sign their kids up for dance, sports, music, art, and language lessons, right? In a recent NewYorkTimes.com arti cle Alina Tugend says, “…in an effort to give their children everything, some parents end up not just depleting financial resources, but also their own emotional energy.” Exposure to early opportunities, classes, more »
Read moreSurviving Back to School Shopping with Tweens & Teens: Studio 5
Need help finding clothes to fit your standards and her style? It’s just one of the challenges moms face when shopping with “Tweens” and teens. Here are my tips to help help you resolve your shopping struggles, before you hit the stores. 1) Money Pam: “I would like to ask how I can make my more »
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