Ask Julie: I’m Caring for Mentally Ill Adult Brother
Q: If something was to happen to me my brother would not be able to survive. I need help. My mother adopted my brother at 13 whom is 21 now. He had been foster care since he was 2 years old. They labeled him as mentally ill. We would hit is head on the wall, more »
Read moreAre New Year’s Resolutions Hazardous To Your Mental Health?
Resolution time again. To do lists get pulled out and we add to them our resolutions for the new year. Too frequently though, by February 1, our list of good intentions has been relegated to the junk drawer due to failed attempts. We’re left feeling down or guilty for what we didn’t do. But, what more »
Read moreDo You Suffer From “Christmas Perfectionism”?
If you already struggle with perfectionism, the holiday season can be particularly difficult for stress management. For one thing, there are often higher expectations, more on your to do list, and more people to please. So, whether you struggle with perfectionism when it comes to buying the “perfect” gift, decorating the house “perfectly”, sending out more »
Read moreMood boosters to beat the winter “blahs”: You & Yours Show
In episode 007 “Mood Boosters To Beat The Winter “Blahs” on “You And Yours” self & relationship expert and therapist shares simple, intentional activities you can do today to boost your mood, and maintain a positive outlook during the winter months. Listen to episode (007) “Mood Boosters to Beat the Winter Blahs“
Read more“Ask The Therapist” Live Facebook Event Dec. 21
The holiday season can bring out the best…and the worst in all of us, and in family relationships. Here’s your chance to get FREE advice to help you during the holidays and those cold winter months. I’m excited to be participating in PsychCentral.com’s Ask the Therapist Live Facebook Q & A event with Dr. Marie more »
Read moreDon’t Be Afraid To Set Boundaries: Studio 5
Does the fear of offending friends or family members keep you from setting boundaries? It’s a timely topic with the holidays fast approaching. Therapist, Julie Hanks, says it’s ok to set boundaries, even if you offend someone. Q: Why are we afraid to set boundaries that might offend someone? You might mistakenly confuse boundaries more »
Read moreMy Turn On “The Couch”: Psych Central
PsychCentral.com’s Margarita Tartakovsky, MS recently interviewed me for a new series featuring therapists called “Clinicians on the Couch. She was delightful to interview with. Check out her body image blog Weightless. So…if you’re interested in knowing what I wish my clients knew, what psych books I’m reading, what’s surprised me about being a therapist, how more »
Read moreTechnology Milestones For Kids | When Should Kids Have Cell Phones, Facebook, Game Consoles?: Studio 5
Hi-Tech Parenting: When Should Kids Have Cell Phones, Facebook, Game Consoles? Under pressure to let your kids go hi-tech? Get expert advice on when to let children have a cell phone, open a Facebook account and more. Studio 5 Contributor and therapist, Julie Hanks, has tips to help you manage kids and technology. 1) At more »
Read moreEncouraging Creativity in Your Kids
1) Model a creative life Let your kids in on your own creative outlets. Whether it’s creating an online scrapbook, journal writing, floral arrangements, card making, playing flute, etc. My kids have grown up seeing me write songs and perform in concerts. Because I’ve continued to develop my creative side, from as young as 18 more »
Read moreOvercoming Pregnancy Body Image Fears: Quoted on Parents.com
Pregnancy is a time of change, and living in a culture obsessed with appearance and thinness, many women struggle with fears surrounding body changes that accompany pregnancy. I recently interviewed with Parents.com to share my thoughts on this topic… “Women need to develop a willingness to view bodily changes as part of the journey of more »
Read moreLet Back To School Memories Inspire You Today: Studio 5
Back to school doesn’t have to be all about your kids. Let the start of a new school year inspire you. Therapist, Julie Hanks, has a grown-up perspective on back to school that can help improve your emotional health. I recently did an interview for Natural Health Magazine’s article “Back to School for Grown more »
Read more6 Tips for Marital Bliss After ‘I Do’: Daily Herald
“I do” is just the beginning of the adventure of marriage. Here’s a quote from a recent Daily Herald article called “After ‘I do”: 6 Tips for Marital Bliss”. A common misconception about romance is that it’s all about money, about buying gifts, or planning trips for your lover,” said Hanks. “Romance can be simple, more »
Read moreIs Your Child “Overbooked”?: KSL 5 News
The Overbooked Child Good parents sign their kids up for dance, sports, music, art, and language lessons, right? In a recent NewYorkTimes.com arti cle Alina Tugend says, “…in an effort to give their children everything, some parents end up not just depleting financial resources, but also their own emotional energy.” Exposure to early opportunities, classes, more »
Read moreSurviving Back to School Shopping with Tweens & Teens: Studio 5
Need help finding clothes to fit your standards and her style? It’s just one of the challenges moms face when shopping with “Tweens” and teens. Here are my tips to help help you resolve your shopping struggles, before you hit the stores. 1) Money Pam: “I would like to ask how I can make my more »
Read moreAsk Julie: I Feel Stuck In My Own Mind
Q: I’ve been sitting here for 30 minutes trying to formulate my thoughts into a paragraph but I can’t do it so I’m just going to list feeling as they come to mind. 1. I feel nothing on a regular basis. For example if I got a call saying that my mother died, I don’t more »
Read moreAsk Julie: Lacking Emotions in Social Situations
Q: I am a 17 year old High School student and I have felt this conflict my entire life, but only now can I ignore it no longer. Amidst all of the discussion about college and ‘finding the right fit,’ I have realized that the major internal problem I have is that I lack an more »
Read more7 Things Your BFF May Not Be Telling You: Quoted in Woman’s Day
Would you tell your best friend… I don’t like your boyfriend You never gave me a wedding gift You never talk about serious stuff Your husband hit on me Your kids drive me crazy You don’t take my advice You don’t lean on me I just chatted with Woman’s Day recently about if and how more »
Read moreAsk Julie: How Do I Overcome Bad Habits Learned From My Unstable Childhood?
Q: Hi! I had a pretty unstable childhood growing up and worked really hard to accept the life I had and move on as well as love the life I have now. The problem I struggle with is habits from my parents that I have adopted myself. I struggle with a temper problem when I more »
Read moreLove…but don’t lose yourself in dating: BYU Universe
“In general, women are socialized to sacrifice self for the sake of relationship,” Hanks said in an e-mail. “I see many people in therapy who don’t have a strong sense of self before getting into the relationship. Many people look to a relationship to give them a sense of value or worth only to realize more »
Read moreTop Posts of 2011…So Far
It’s fascinating to see which posts are the most viewed and shared with others! So, I’m gathering that these are the most popular because people care deeply about improving their marriage, taking good care of their kids, coming to terms their bodies and their past, and hearing about other people’s imperfections – like mine (see more »
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